10 Sure Ways To Help Calm An Angry Man
Sometimes couples fight. It’s part of life, although we all hope we do not have to deal with many fights. It’s important to know that sometimes it will happen, and we deal with angry spouses, boyfriends/girlfriends, or partners.
So, how do you calm them down and return to your normal daily life? If you are a woman and dealing with an angry man, what’s the fastest way to calm him down?
Softer Voice
One Redditor said, “One trick I learned when I was a teen managing at McDonald’s. One of my managers there taught me that if you have a loud, angry customer, start out with your voice just a bit softer than theirs. As you talk, lower the volume of your voice more and more. They will tend to lower their volume to match you and tend to calm down as the volume drops.”
A second Redditor added, “I’m generally a quiet person, so whenever I get into an argument, it usually ends up just making the other person feel bad.”
Confuse Them
A popular comment read, “If it’s a random drunk man, try and confuse him. Out of nowhere, say something really left field “my garden isn’t 10 feet long” then immediately say something completely different like “Sorry, your not the waiter I was expecting” then just leave before they can make sense of what just happened.”
Another comment was, “I have done this to prevent a bar fight before. I just started bawling out random stuff that confused everyone so much that the mood changed, and the whole thing de-escalated from there. Then I continued to drink my face off. I wasn’t in the fight, just a random bystander.”
Don’t Say, “Calm Down!”
A user wrote, “Never in the history of calming down has anyone calmed down by being told to calm down.” Can t recall where I read this, but it springs to mind here.”
A second user added, “I remember taking a mental health first aid course, and the one thing I remember from that course is to never use phrases like ‘calm down’ in situations like this.”
Leave Them Alone
One Redditor put it simply, “Leave him alone.”
Another Redditor replied, “Before things get worse, go take a walk and don’t return until you feel things have become more peaceful.”
Validate Feelings
A popular comment was, “You’re right – I’m really sorry, man” – this btw is the best way to save your life from an insane road rage dude in a black pickup.”
Another comment was, “Appropriately expressed anger? Hear it. Validate it. Sit with it.”
A third said, “Validate the feeling, but do not accept the behavior.”
Hug
A user wrote, “Hug that man. Most anger isn’t anger. It is another emotion. Disarm with reassurance.”
A second user added, “As a girl hug him. As his girlfriend f*** him.”
Calm Him
One Redditor replied, “If it’s not at you, rub his back, like, do circles with your hand. Nails can help. You feel support and get some happy chemicals going.”
A second Redditor added, “Well, have you tried showing him a picture of a puppy in a cowboy hat? It might not work for everyone, but it’s worth a shot!”
Always Show Love
An insightful comment was, “If this question is coming from the man’s romantic partner, I would say being very sweet and loving always melts my anger.”
Cool Off Period
A Redditor added, “It still boggles my mind how long my ex would stay angry when we had a fight or disagreement. Give me 20 minutes to cool off afterward, and I was fine and ready to make up. She’d stew for days.”
Another Redditor replied, “If there’s someone in your life who gets angry and does you the courtesy of leaving the room, please let them be and calm down so that you can resume the conversation.”
Leave (if necessary)
The most liked comment said, “Inappropriately expressed anger? Not your circus, not your elephant. Remove yourself.”
Another comment was, “Exactly. Inappropriate (projected/displaced) anger is his own responsibility. Man or woman, it’s our own job to emotionally regulate ourselves.”
Redditors gave some great advice on how to calm an angry man down. Does your significant other have any calm-down techniques that work for them?
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