Coming to terms with a terminally ill friend or family member can be a devastating revelation. It’s never easy dealing with the fact that you will eventually lose someone. However, often times we are able to take solace in the memories we created and times that were shared with that person. One Redditor recently went through a situation like this and, unfortunately, may be unable to say her final goodbye to her dear friend.
The Passing of a Friend
The original poster (OP) began by saying that recently her husband’s friend passed away after a long struggle with cancer. OP and her husband were devastated by both the diagnosis and his recent death. She then went on to say that the 3 of them were very close and had been friends for a long time.
However, their friend’s wife, now a widow, does not like OP. She says she cannot pinpoint what she did to make her friend’s wife dislike her so much, and all she can say is that they just don’t get along.
After the death of their friend, OP and his widow had their biggest blow up which came after OP had posted some health updates on their friend via her personal social media, OP felt this was a normal thing to do since she, her husband, and the recently deceased had many mutual friends. Her friend’s widow was not happy about this. She called OP several rude things and then blocked her on social media.
The funeral for their friend is going to be held soon, and OP found out her friend’s widow excluded her. OP says her husband is still going, which OP feels is unfair and quite devastating because she wants to be able to say her final goodbyes to their friend but feels as though there is nothing she can do about it.
After finding out that she was not welcome at their friend’s funeral, she told her husband that she expects him to stay home and not go to the funeral because she cannot attend. OP’s husband found this upsetting and told OP what she was expecting was both unfair and that whatever petty fight was happening between her and their friend’s widow was none of his concern, and he will still attend the funeral.
OP feels that because she is excluded from going, her husband should support her and do the same, especially when she is being treated unfairly by their friend’s wife, but her husband is still saying it’s not his problem, and now they are not speaking because of it.
Redditors Weigh In
Redditors gave their thoughts on the funeral issues.
One Redditor said, “I agree with everything else said as well. The funeral is not about you. Attempting to force your husband to “stand by you” is ridiculously inappropriate under the circumstances, and again not about you. This is the time to gracefully shut up, allow others to grieve, and quietly acknowledge your wrongdoings, to yourself only.”
A second Redditor said, “I’d be furious too if a non-relative posted health updates about my husband on social media without asking either of us first. Someone’s personal health struggles aren’t your issues to use to get clout or sympathy.”
A third Redditor said, “OP has some serious main-character syndrome going on..”
Another user said, “Stop making this all about you. You not being invited was 100% of your own making. Your husband, on the other hand, did nothing wrong. Let him go and mourn his friend bff.”
A user had this to say, “It was not your place to post Joe’s health updates, and his death is not about you. Joe’s funeral is to allow his wife, family and loved ones to say goodbye and to grieve. If your presence causes his wife more pain, you should not be there…… Support your husband and leave his grieving widow alone.”
This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Neon Moon. Source: Reddit
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