When Everything Fell Apart: Contemplating The Top 20 Moments That Led to Breaking Things Off
Lots of relationships come to what’s referred to as a “tipping point” these are often critical moments when a relationship can either improve, deteriorate rapidly, or even end. If handled poorly, a tipping point can trigger a cascade of negative emotions and behaviors that can lead to a breakup or divorce.
Being On Time
One Redditor said, “I was leaving the gym and told her I would be over to her apartment in about 45 minutes after I showered. I kid you not, at the 45 minute mark she was texting me upset that I wasn’t there yet. Showed up at about the 50 minute mark, she would not open the door beyond leaving the security latch attached, and only to tell me to scratch off.”
Unfair Treatment
This Redditor added, “He kept treating his dance partner better than me. He would take her out for drinks, took her shopping with him, and posted photos of her online but wouldn’t hold my hand in public, nothing about me on social media whatsoever.”
Controlling Relationship
This user shared, “I was sick of her and her controlling attitude. I was done feeling like a bad person for things I didn’t do wrong. I was tired of living her dream life.”
Realizing It Won’t Change
A user said, “Things had been going downhill for a long time, and we ended up in marriage counseling, which was actually what did us in. Sitting in a room with her refusing to listen to me and her own counselor about things going on in our relationship really clued me in to fact that things weren’t going to get better.”
Unlawful Relationships
This Redditor stated, “When my now ex-wife was arrested for having a physical relationship with one of her female students…”
Purchased A House
A Redditor mentioned, “He told me he had to go to Minnesota for a couple months on business but actually bought a house there and was planning on tricking me into moving there with him.”
Marriage
This user shared, “She wouldn’t stop sleeping with her ex boyfriend and then decided to marry him. She told me this via text.”
Drug Relapse
A Redditor shared, “His crack addiction reared its ugly head – after he was clean for more than a year.”
Hooked On Pills
A user said, “When she finally started to sober up from the years’ worth of prescription meds and immediately said “I don’t want to be married anymore.”
Lying
This Redditor shared, “She started telling me how she had to defend me to my friends after I had to miss watching a show with them to go into work. My friends told me that wasn’t true and she spent the entire time bad mouthing me.”
Alcohol Abuse
A user said, “I got tired of carrying her to bed after her nightly binge drinking. Also, her complete denial of being an alcoholic and refusing to get help.”
Morning Contemplation
This user shared, “Standing in the kitchen early in the morning trying to work out if I would get told off again for pouring my boyfriend’s tea in the wrong mug (not his favourite one), or for making a noise washing up his favourite one.”
Financially Dependent
This Redditor said, “Month after month after month, it was nothing but excuses for why he couldn’t pay rent. Yet he would spend all his income on eating out, online gaming memberships, etc. He would also try to guilt trip me into getting him stuff constantly.”
Animal Abuse
A user shared this experience, “When I found out my ex kept a cat locked in the attic for several years. He’d change the litter box about once a month and gave her food/water every couple of days. He didn’t really give a darn about her. When I confronted him about her treatment and got the response “It’s just a cat.”
Seeing Others
This Redditor mentioned, “He was going out during the night to see two other girls. TWO. And when I saw him during the morning he would be tired as hell (because obviously he was out) and tell me he had sleeping issues.”
Employment
This user said, “We moved to a new country, (Netherlands, I’m Portuguese she’s Polish). I got a job, she didn’t. She became pissed and started stressing. I got a better job, she got an average one, stress continued. So, in order to get an even better job she applied to work in ANOTHER country (Italy). Got accepted and soon our relationship was over.”
Finding Relief
A top-liked comment stated, “When my ex went away for a trip and I felt immediate relief while he was gone, and somewhat dreaded him coming back. That’s when I realized that I didn’t need to be afraid to be single, and that being alone was better than being in a relationship that made me so sad.”
Silent Treatment
This user shared, “We were at a baseball game and I noticed she was acting strange, being quiet and distant. Normally she was always a bubbly happy person. For the rest of the trip she just shut down and was no longer present. She wouldn’t talk about what was bothering her. The next day after getting home we talked on the phone and I finally got it out of her that it was over. Found out later from a mutual friend that I bored her and she only realized it when we finally spent an extended period of time together.”
Beating Charges
This Redditor said, “Exact words told to me by an ex. I found out that she was on parole. She beat the homicide charge. But took a lesser charge. It also involved a knife.”
Dodged A…
Finally, a user said, “Threw a frying pan at my head, ducked it. Started telling me she was going to call the police and accuse me of hitting her.”
After reading through the responses on this thread, it’s clear that the tipping point of a relationship can vary greatly from person to person. For some, it was a single moment or event, while for others it was a gradual realization. However, what remains constant is the importance of communication and honesty in any relationship.
Source: Reddit
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