In the digital age, the dating landscape is as unpredictable as it is diverse. The increasing popularity of dating apps has introduced new dynamics and dilemmas that can leave even the most seasoned daters perplexed.
Our story revolves around a 29-year-old man who, amidst this whirlwind of online dating, stumbled upon a perplexing situation. He planned a date with a woman of the same age, whom he met on Hinge. However, she canceled at the last minute, only to express a desire to reschedule later. This sudden shift begs the question – what prompted her change of heart, and how should he interpret these mixed signals?
Does Everybody Deserve a Second Chance?
The original poster (OP) explains that preparations for the first date had been far from ideal. She initially postponed the date by two hours at the last minute before altogether canceling.
OP believes she would have completely ghosted and not even told him had he not sent her two confirmation texts the hour before the newly-arranged time. Ultimately, she messaged saying that she had to cancel but wanted to plan something else.
OP had wasted a lot of time and was annoyed that she canceled at the last minute. After weighing everything up he responded to her text saying that he didn’t want to reschedule because he thought her actions had been inconsiderate.
The date has been fully apologetic and blames the cancelation on her overthinking the whole situation. She says that she freaked out because she didn’t hear from it at all the day prior to the date, although OP says that it was her turn to text him based on the messages they had been exchanging.
If anything, though, this explanation has raised a few alarm bells with OP. He feels intimidated that she read so much into a lack of text messages, and he is unsure if she is going to be the girl for him. Although, on the flip side, there must have been a reason why he was so up for the first day initially.
The Community Responds
The online community wasted no time in sticking the knife into OP’s date and almost unanimously told OP to not waste any more energy on her. One person said that it was “way too much stress for a coffee date” and recommended that he “cut his losses and move on,” while another called her “flakey and wishy-washy.”
Interestingly, one user in the comments had recently been involved in a similar situation herself and was on hand to offer some first-hand advice. She said:
“This Friday I was stood up as well, 20 minutes before going out. No second chance, I spent an hour getting ready. He knew he couldn’t make it and still just told me minutes before. So disrespectful. We don’t know each other, if the little I see of you is this, I don’t want to know any more of you.”
Has the online community been a little hasty here? Should OP give his date another chance considering she didn’t know whether the date was going to go ahead or not herself? What would you do in his shoes?
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