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Top 20 Obstacles People Have in Finding a Life Partner

Various factors may hinder the ability to meet someone new and establish a connection. Time constraints and busy schedules can play a role, as people often find themselves immersed in work, education, or personal commitments that leave little room for socializing. However, it seems that social anxiety and/or a lack of confidence may be among the biggest hindrances to someone’s willingness to venture out and meet new people. So, What’s stopping you from having a partner in life?


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One Redditor shared, “Trust issues. I often think people don’t like me for no good reason.”

No Effort

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A Redditor divulged, “Currently, I’m making 0 effort to do so. Haven’t been interested in anyone in a while.”

Tunnel Vision

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This user added, “The only thing Im interested in is getting my degree and then seeing where things go from there.”


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A user said, “Myself. I’m bad at socializing and generally come off as very avoidant. It’s a vicious cycle.”

Media Consumption

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One Redditor stated, “Why go out to a noisy, expensive bar where I’m just going to get rejected when there are so many shows and movies begging to be watched?”

Medical Reasons

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A user shared, “I fell for a girl, and I was so close. Then my health ruined it…in and out of the hospital, Dr. trips, recovering, lack of motivation. It’s awful to think of what could’ve been.”

Lack Of Effort

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A top-liked comment said, “My desire hasn’t overtaken the expectations of the effort required. It seems like so much work, and the payoff seems so unlikely.”

Just Being Me

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A user said, “I hate the whole flirting talk and having to be witty. I just can’t be myself, and isn’t that what people want? I’m witty, but on my own time, not when I’m forced to be.”

Not To Settle

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This Redditor stated, “Not being able to find someone I can foresee the rest of my life with. I meet people often, but things just don’t click, and I feel like I don’t want to “just settle.”

Happy Alone

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A top-liked comment said, “The idea that I’m happy alone. Maybe I am, maybe I’m not, and I can’t quite figure it out, but all I know is that having the freedom to do what I want when I want feels really good right now.”

Social Anxiety

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This user shared, “I’m not the best in social situations, and I feel like I have nothing to offer others. It’s a lack of confidence and my inability to want to be social.”


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This Redditor mentioned, “I’m in that awkward in-between area where I’ve got too much self-worth to settle for someone who will ruin my life and not enough self-worth to let a good person love me.”


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A user stated, “My personality. I get bored really fast and don’t think it’ll be fair to the other person. My friends say it’s because I haven’t met the right person, maybe true, but I don’t want to risk it.”


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A top-liked comment said, “I’m just… weird. I can get insanely obsessed with new things. On other days I’m like a sad, depressed person and don’t want to do anything. Sometimes I don’t even wanna talk to people for a week or do anything. I just don’t think anyone should have to endure something like that. There are better alternatives out there for everyone.”


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One Redditor stated, “For me, it’s really simple. It’s three things, ⁠my anxiety, ⁠my depression, and my physical appearance.’ 

High Maintenence

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This Redditor shared, “I’m a really terrible partner. I’ve put multiple people through absolute hell because they have normal expectations in a relationship. I require a lot of alone time. Sometimes, I just want to sleep by myself, and sometimes I like traveling by myself.” 


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A Redditor mentioned, “I go through isolation phases, like for weeks. I may just stay at home, only going out for a strict minimum of time and things. (groceries and back, haircut and back, etc) It’s not even depression. It’s just me genuinely being tired of small talk and the like.”


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A user said, “I’m not the kind of sociable that goes out of his way to meet people for just any reason. I don’t care for bars or parties, for instance. It’s not that I don’t want someone. It’s that I don’t really know how/what to do.”


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This user simply stated, “I get hyper-fixations on people and then become disappointed when they are normal people.”

Not There

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Finally, a Redditor commented, “I simply don’t have the energy to provide and love someone unconditionally at this point in time in my life. I want to grow as an individual and love myself first. I choose not to be in a relationship for that purpose because it would be completely unfair to them.”

Well, the Redditors have spoken and discussed various reasons and obstacles they face in finding a partner. Many of these factors, such as personal circumstances, social anxieties, personal limitations, and the challenges of life, seem to be the biggest theme among many of them.

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