The reasons why a man might choose to remain single can vary greatly from person to person. Some men choose to be single due to personal preferences, focusing on their careers, or valuing independence. Others may face challenges in finding compatible partners due to social factors, shyness, or a lack of opportunities to meet new people. Individual circumstances and past experiences can also play a significant role in a man’s relationship status.
One poster commented, “I don’t try. That might just be my denial, but I legitimately don’t try. I make no effort not to be single.”
A second poster added, “Being fat and shy surely isn’t helping me. I know I can work on both of these things, but I have no motivation to do so. Oh, also, not having any motivation.”
Not Many Options
A third poster shared, “There are plenty of fish in the sea. Unfortunately, I live in the desert.”
This Is Your Sign
Someone said, “I am very bad at picking up on signals. It’s not that I’m oblivious, but I have past trauma of picking up on what I thought were signals that ended up apparently not being signals, and it just overwhelms my anxiety now.”
This user commented, “I’ve just stopped trying. I’m too awkward to connect with most people on a romantic level, and the times I have connected with someone, they’ve almost invariably turned out to be toxic in one form or another. I get lonely, but I’ve found that’s a lot less painful than either rejection or just being with a very wrong person.”
A poster said, “Ever heard a girl say: “Damn, a hunchback is dead se****y!”? Me neither. So I’ll spend the rest of my life alone in my bell tower.”
One user shared, “I suck at text communication, and I’m shy when it comes to meeting complete strangers (i.e., on the street, grocery store, bus stop, I just can’t initiate a conversation, scare myself sh****tless). Then when situations do come up where I can meet someone new (like a party), we usually get along great and have plans to hang out again, but then once I send a text or two, it’s over.”
Lack Of A Wingman
This person added, “My friends pretty much all moved away. I don’t have anyone to go out with anymore and wingman when I need it. Damnit, I’m lonely, but if I get this job I just interviewed for, I’ll have a work schedule that will allow me to join clubs, so that would be nice.
A commenter said, “I think my standards are too high, and I’m too shy. I could lower my standards, but why would I waste my time knowing it won’t work because of my lower standards.”
Being A Burden
A user shared, “Because I’m on the spectrum, it is very cruel to subject someone to dating me.”
A Long List
A person divulged, “Umm… let’s see, I’m not attractive. I don’t drink or go to bars. I’m either at work or at home. I work at a crappy retail job. I’m 28, and I live with my mom due to extenuating circumstances.”
A League Of His Own
This poster said, “I’m not attracted to girls in my league. I’m like a three, maybe a four on a good day, and only attracted to 8 and above.”
A top-liked comment said, “Cause I am selfish and want to do what I want when I want. I can be alone without being lonely!”
A commenter added, “Mental health issues! I would burden any partner, and I can’t fathom what anyone would get from a relationship with me.”
Someone said, “Because I’m a 41-year-old with all the qualifications and achievements of a 19-year-old.”
Fear Of The Unknown
This user shared, “I’m afraid of asking a friend out and being told no, and then our friendship becoming awkward. And slowly, ever so slowly, it whittles away into nothing, and I never see that person again. The only way for me to feel remotely attracted to anyone enough to date them is to get to know them over time. But when I get there, I decide a sure friendship is better than a possible relationship.
A poster commented, “Recently just got out of a 4-year relationship and am super bummed about it. It feels like I’ll never be able to date again.”
This commenter added, “I’m an unattractive loser with self-esteem issues. I’m sure I could find someone but that whole “putting yourself out there” thing. No Thanks.”
Enjoying The Single Life
A user stated, “Honestly, I enjoy being single. I’ve only ever had one girlfriend, and that also kind of left a sour taste in my mouth. I’m just someone who really enjoys spending time with myself.”
Still In Love
Finally, a user shared, “I’m still in love with my ex. It’s been a while but I’d prefer to remain uninvolved while I get over it. I’ve attempted to get out there some, and when I go to the bar, girls talk to me, but in the end, I never get much farther than getting a number and trading texts for a day before I call it off because I know that even if they are into me, I can’t reciprocate in earnest.”
Single men highlight a range of reasons why they’re either choosing to be single or simply why they are single. Many of the comments include personal preference such, choosing to remain single because they enjoy their life but several of the comments point out limited opportunities, fear of commitment, past experiences, social anxiety, and lack of self-esteem.
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