Sometimes you want advice, and other times you wish people would stop sharing their “wisdom.” From an early age, our parents, grandparents, friends, and acquaintances think giving unsolicited relationship advice is fine and wanted, but it’s not the case.
Some advice often given is “He’s only doing that because he likes you.” or “You should leave them on “read” for a day before responding to show you have more important things to do.” Relationship advice is common, and although some may be helpful, most of it is not. Recently this question was asked, “What is the worst relationship advice you’ve ever heard?” Here are some of the answers.
Another Redditor wrote, “Heard a youtube therapist once say that as soon as you decide to do a loyalty test, you’ve already decided the relationship is over because either they fail and you can’t trust them, or they pass, and you show them that you don’t trust them and they stop being able to trust you.”
A user replied, “When I was a teenager, my mom told me not to let boys see I was smart because no man is attracted to a woman who’s smarter than he is. Also, I should work on my laugh because no one would be attracted to my laugh.”
Always Look Attractive
One user added, “My (very attractive but very unhappy in her own marriage mother) tried to make me believe that the secret of a successful marriage is to look desirable at every hour of the day and night. Makeup, clothes, perfume… anything to keep the husband interested. Having a personality is nice but not necessary.”
Spend 3 Month’s Salary on an Engagement Ring
A Redditor commented, “Spend 3 months salary on an engagement ring. This was literally started by the rich diamond families to increase sales.”
It’s Not Cheating if She Never Finds Out
One user wrote, “It’s not cheating if she never finds out.” Said by some di***t I used to know who has been married and divorced three times now.”
A comment read, “One of the worst pieces of advice is to “just settle” for someone because they seem like a safe or practical choice, even if there’s no real connection or compatibility.”
Stay Together for the Kids
One Redditor wrote, “Stay together for the kids. I was the child. Please don’t.”
Always Have the Power
A user replied, “Always try to be the one who has the power.” Relationships are cooperative, not competitive.”
Fighting is Healthy
A Redditor replied, “Everyone always says fighting is healthy. Disagreement is healthy why would fighting be healthy lmao? I’ll be like oh, we don’t fight, and people will be like that’s not healthy!”
Relationships are 50/50
One comment read. “I think when you are in a relationship, you need to be a team and be on the same page. You both need to give 100%. Some days that might be 50/50, Others 60/40, Others 75/25. If you see them struggling and you know you can help them lighten their load of stress, you help them because you love them and you are a team.”
Happy Wife, Happy Life
One user replied, “Hearing “happy wife, happy life” makes me want to vomit. Peace at any price is no peace at all.”
Get Under Someone to Get Over Someone
A popular comment was, “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. You’re just using someone innocent and ignoring the healing process too.”
Don’t go to Bed Angry
One Redditor commented, “Sometimes, you need time to think things through, though, and time to calm down. In the morning, many times you may find whatever upset you isn’t worth it anyway.”
Everyone Deserves a Second Chance
A user wrote, “This is so wrong. The good advice would be “people are human and make mistakes. Most deserve a second chance, but if the line is crossed, get out!”.
A second user added, “Nobody deserves a second chance to put you in a hospital or worse.”
Save Yourself for Marriage
One Redditor commented, “I’m convinced that the whole “no s*x before marriage” thing causes higher divorce rates.”
Another Redditor replied, “Well, it does. People get married not knowing if they’re sexually compatible.”
Play Hard to Get
A user added, “You should play hard to get. Relationships are always about playing little games at the beginning”…. Thanks for that one. How about if I like her and feel like texting, I will.”
Another comment was, “Where you act uninterested to not come off “too strong.” Why are we pretending we don’t like each other if we do? It saves everyone’s time if we’re more direct with one another.”
Just Have a Baby
One piece of advice was, “If you’re having relationship problems, just get a baby.”
A second user said, “having a kid or even a pet together will make things better.”
You Marry the Family
One Redditor replied, “When you marry, you marry the whole family. Nope. There are only 2 people taking vows. At the end, no one says, “and let the Church say Amen.”
Fight Fire with Fire
One piece of bad advice read, “Fight fire with fire is one of the worse. No I will not scream like crazy just because the other person did.”
He/She will Change
One Redditor said, “he/she will change. Guess what? They most likely will not change for good!”
A second Reddito added, “He will not change, and you will be miserable.”
There you have it, 20 pieces of awful relationship advice from Redditors around the world. What bad relationship advice have you gotten? What bad relationship advice have you given?
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